Why we fail in life by following the crowd.
Are you in the crowd? Stand out
I can’t stand it when I see human beings blessed with the God-given gift of thinking try to fit in the crowd.
Last year,we had a phenomenon which started here in the U.S and spread throughout the world called the ice bucket challenge.For those not aware of it ,the idea was for someone to dump ice water on themselves,post and tag themselves on social media and challenge others to do the same.There was a catch to all this – donate money.
The donations were directed to the Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS ) association to help in the research of Lou Gehrig’s disease.
Personally, I have nothing against donating time or money to worthy causes or the less fortunate.My problem is when a whole group of people without the knowledge or information about a charity organization jump into it not because they care but to satisfy their own narcissists desires to be noticed.
The quickest way someone can talk me out of anything is tell me that its popular and lots of people are following or doing it.I hate following crowds because you end up lost in the crowd and nobody is following you.
It was refreshing when someone finally went against the norm to put a twist to the challenge.Charlie Sheen was nominated for the challenge but instead of ice water coming out of the bucket, he had $10,000 cash poured over his head.People on social media were outraged and went berserk.I found it original, funny and he did donate some money.Wasn’t that one of the goals for the challenge?
Charlie Sheen pointed out in the video with a sense of humor that money and not ice melts would help people.He was responding to people who either refused the challenge or did it for the fun with no intention of donating any money.I have always liked Charlie Sheen for staying true to himself despite all the unconventional stuff he does.
I found out that people follow and accept what is popular and common without engaging in any type of critical thinking on their part.They let other people do the thinking for them.
Don’t have a mentor / Expert
When your car breaks down,do you take it to a doctor or a mechanic? When you want to invest money,do you go to a certified financial planner or your broke uncle who can’t hold a job and has no savings?Are you being cheap when it comes to getting professional advice?
Even the great Thomas Edison discouraged his friend, Henry Ford, from pursuing his fledgling idea of a motorcar. Convinced of the worthlessness of the idea, Edison invited Ford to come and work for him. Ford remained committed and tirelessly pursued his dream. Although his first attempt resulted in a vehicle without reverse gear, Henry Ford knew he could make it happen. And, of course, he did.
Although Thomas Edison was a brilliant scientist,he had zero experience in the auto industry.If Henry Ford had listened to him and not his own intuition,we may still be riding on horses and buggies.
In the book the The Richest Man in Babylon , We are told to guard our treasures from loss by consulting with wise men and securing the advice of those with the experience of what we want to accomplish.
For a long time,I relied on family and friends opinions instead of seeking my own or from experts.They influenced some of my personal and professional decisions which I lived to regret.
Find people who have accomplished what you wish to accomplish and learn from them.Don’t hang around people who want you to conform to their misadvice.
The crab mentality is a metaphor that refers to a pot of crabs.Individually, the crabs could easily escape from the pot, but instead, they grab at each other in a useless competition which prevents any from escaping and ensures their collective demise.
In one of Dr Phil’s article Protecting yourself from sabotage, he explains how people are comfortable with circumstances that they know, even if the circumstances are bad.A change for the better is still a change — a complete threat to familiarity and the security of the status quo. Don’t be surprised if others perceive your reconnection with your authentic self as something threatening that they need to destroy.
Most of us are fearful that our family or friends may think we are weird for being different.But think of how the world would look like: if we all looked the same,spoke the same language,ate the same type of foods.We would be living like robots.(Boring…)
Our differences make life vibrant,colorful and exciting.
Human beings have only two inborn fears.One is the fear of falling.The other is the fear of loud noises.All other fears are learned.Never fear to be yourself .You might face some criticism or ridicule from some people but will gain respect.
I have seen it so many times – people who listen to the media , family or friends to get the next “hot stock tip”,when or where to buy a house,what school to attend or what job to take because it pays the best salary.Am not suggesting that all advice from your loved ones is bad .But do not act without taking the time to study and research what’s best for you.We are all individuals with unique circumstances and may need different solutions for our problems.
When it comes to your finances, do your own in depth research, ask many questions, listen to different opinions but ultimately make your own decisions taking into account what’s right for you.
Make a decision today to follow your intuition.We find out what is best for us when we take time to sit still and think.Turn off all the noise around you (Tv,family,friends,social media) and think.Stand out from the crowd and people will notice you.